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To The Barren Woman { Special Guest Post by Loretta Yopp! }

Does Mother’s Day find you in an uncomfortable place?  It is not by chance you found these words today.  You need a few moments to be encouraged, beautiful friend.   Push that darling little brew button on your coffee maker and pull up a seat at the table and let’s talk through this thing.   

Because you are worth it.  And because God knew you needed to read these words today.   

I am so excited to share a letter from a dear friend.  Loretta has shared before and this has come at the perfect time.  Mother’s Day.  Here is Loretta’s heart titled “The Barren Woman.” 

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To the Barren Woman,

I’m writing you this Mother’s Day to encourage you to keep moving forward and never give up on your dreams. I am not just another woman that doesn’t understand your pain. I’m a woman who has walked in your shoes. I’m a woman that has been through the fight of being barren and still battle it today. 

It is a struggle that can’t even be described in words. I’m one of the women that has faced the pain and suffered the loss of not being able to feel life growing inside of me. I’m one that has soaked my pillow many nights crying out to God asking Him “Why me, what did I do to deserve this pain?“. 

Quoting scripture after scripture to God as if God didn’t know what He promised in His Word. I was in every prayer line hoping and praying that someone would speak a word over my situation to encourage me that God heard me. Wanting nothing more to be pregnant, but always ending up empty handed. 

Yes, I have felt the pain and brokenness. I have had well meaning people say to me “how blessed” I was to not have to endure the pain of childbirth. Can I just say please don’t say that to a barren woman, because no matter how much you are trying to ease their pain it’s a kick in the face. 

I know the pain of walking around trying to be happy and rejoice for the rest of the pregnant women you meet. Please don’t think we are not glad for you, because we are it is just the human selfishness that surfaces no matter how hard we try to hide the truth that we face each day. You see this barrenness is a painful battle for us every day of our lives. 
  

I have been married to a wonderful man for 25 years and I am in my 40’s and I must tell you during the intimate moments it’s still emotionally painful at times. The feeling of failing my husband as a woman. The feelings within myself as not being a woman because something is wrong with me. 

It still is a slap in the face for me. I still have a longing for the experience of having a baby. I still cry and struggle with angry and rejection when I hear of or see someone pregnant. I encourage you that you are not alone. 

Don’t ever let someone tell you that you are having a pity party and that you should not feel this way… God made us woman to be fruitful and desire children. Your pain is real and Mother’s Day is a struggle and a grim reminder that you were chosen to be barren. 

But one thing that I have learned is that God knows what He is doing in my life and while I may feel loss and pain He is still God. I trust His direction for my life. 

In my case I changed my prayer for children… In September 2012, me and my husband adopted 3 children that God prepared for us. Katelyn, Victoria and Christian are blessings from God into our lives. I tell my children that while I was praying for children God was working on my behalf. 

  

Is the pain and desire still there to want to be pregnant? Yes, it is! But in all God’s goodness He gave me a blessing far greater than I could have ever imagined. 

So to the Barren Woman who is still Motherless on this Mother’s Day be encouraged that each day is a day closer to your destiny and purpose. God is not punishing you, but He is preparing you for greatness… 

Love in Christ my friend.

From Another Barren Woman

lawd have mercy.  

Mercy.  

Google defines it as “compassion or forgiveness shown toward someone whom it is within one’s power to punish or harm.”

Can you use a little mercy today?  
Think about this for a moment.  
  
There are 365 days in a year. Take your age and multiply that by 365. Seriously, do this right now. 😀

I’m 27. And 27 x 365 = 9,855

God has given me 9,855 mercy moments. Fresh starts. Brand spanking new opportunities. That’s mind blowing!  

  

Tomorrow is coming and with that new tomorrow comes new mercy. Because God knew today’s leftovers just wouldn’t cut it.  

Each day requires new mercy. And baby that heavenly goodness is better than a gooey chocolate chunk cookie straight out of the oven. Straight from the throne room of a risen Savior with the keys to death, hell and the grave – new mercy awaits you and I.  

So if you feel like you bombed today, wipe the dirt off your knees and the tears of frustration from your eyes. Tomorrow is coming. And so is a perfectly packaged bundle of mercy.  

#lifeisagift
Live Life Unscripted, 

❤ Brittany 

Undeserved Love

Today was filled with little people whininess and attitudes and fussing galore. Lions and tigers and bears, OH MY! Just an all around crapola day to be frankly honest.  

So to salvage some sanity I put the kids to bed early and have been enjoying some quiet mommy and Jesus time. #breathe #sweetJesus 

I was reading and Psalm 103:10 jumps off the pages: 

 “He does not treat us as our sins deserve..” 

I was like WOOO! God you’re awesome! You’re so amazing. Wow, thank You for being so…. 
  

Then I flip open my prayer journal and find this precious, darling little note from our 6-year-old.
 Oh my heart…. ❤️

It is so amazing how God uses our kids to convict us and show us unconditional love. I don’t know when she wrote this but I definitely needed to see it tonight.  

How many times do we hold against our kids their actions?  (Or our spouse?  Our boss?  Our coworkers? Our family?

We treat them according to their behavior. Yet this is the polar opposite of how God treats us.  

The very next verse reminds us of the Father’s love. “For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his love for those who fear him.”  Psalm 103:11 

And in verse 13, we are reminded of God’s compassion.   “As a father has compassion in his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him.”  

Many times we find ourselves being too harsh and expecting too much. For Pete’s sake, they’re kids. We’re meant to train and equip them with life skills and show them by example how to follow Jesus. (An example I feel like I suck at sometimes. Our flesh is so weak.). 

  

Training isn’t an overnight process. It’s a marathon, not a sprint. It takes time. Patience. And more time and even more patience.  

It’s so easy to feel inadequate as a mom but God gently reminds us to keep trying. To keep going. To keep forgiving and love unconditionally. ❤️ 

Don’t fret, mama. Pray through this season and love big. You’re human. We all have meltdowns. Lay still at the feet of Jesus, forgive yourself and embrace those babies.  

Don’t let one moment of temporary insanity convince you that you suck at life.   

And in case you haven’t heard it lately – you’re AMAZING. And you’re doing a freaking awesome job.    

Share with a mama who needs some encouraging tonight.  ❤️

Live Life Unscripted, 

❤ Brittany 

Dare to Compare

I’ve really tried to be a regular blogger. Really, I have.

And then life happens. I miss a few days. Then a few days turns into a week and a half. Then come the questions. And comparisons.

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I’ve felt the pressure. The expectations. I’ve questioned myself. More than you know..

How often should I post? What topics should I write about? What’s the best time of day to post? Why can’t I be more like “her” or “this blog” or “that blog”?

I’m not sure about you, but I’ll shamefully admit that I’m great at comparing myself to others.

Comparing my cooking skills. My messy house. Photography. Marriage. Ability to accessorize. Confidence. Writing. Speaking. And most of all.. Mothering.

There will always be someone better. Someone with more experience.

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But there will never be another YOU.

Comparison is such a devious tool the enemy uses against us. Especially against women.

You’ve heard the conversations. Thought the thoughts.

“Have you seen her dress?” “Can you believe how many extracurricular activities her kids are in?” “Well they just shop all the time don’t they?”

Compare, compare, despair.

It’s a vicious cycle and must be broken. ASAP.

So here I am. Flinging the curtains open wide to expose some ugliness. Again. {Sometimes I wonder if I’m crazy being this transparent.}

I struggle with comparison. Like, baaaaad bad.

Am I a good enough wife? “She” works full time and helps provide for her family. I’m “just” a stay at home mom who can’t keep a clean house…

Do my kids think I’m a good enough mom? “She” has her kids memorizing scriptures, doing the coolest DIY projects and throws birthday parties to die for. I can barely remember to bathe them daily, I suck at most DIY projects and party planning. I’ll never measure up…

See the pattern here? It trips us up. It’s pretty self-destructive. And must be muzzled and discarded immediately before it’s roots dig down deep.

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Over the next week or so, I’m letting the walls down. I don’t live the “perfect life” with the “perfect family” with the white picket fence. We do life messy and loud. Almost always.

But one thing has hit me hard – God hasn’t called me to reach everyone, but He has called me to reach someone.

And I so desperately need Him to show me when to say yes wholeheartedly and when to politely say no. I’m so tired of giving the people I love the most my leftover time.

We can’t be 100% in 100 different areas. It’s just not possible. And the comparisons. must. stop.

So over the next week or so, I’m letting you into my heart. Your comments are welcome, but please be gentle. I’m still a work in progress. And I’m wiling to admit – I’m ready to trade perfection for progress.

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What about you? Do you struggle with comparison? Do you feel you measure up? Have you set unrealistic expectations for yourself?

Chime in below! I’d love to hear your thoughts!

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Live Life Unscripted,
❤ Brittany

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More Than Enough.

Another day of endless sibling squabbles.

More than enough.

Give me that! I had it first! That’s mine! Stop it! He’s pushing me! She did it!” The oh so familiar repetitive routine will wear down even the strongest ones.

Some days are so completely exhausting. *insert long dramatic sigh here* And when those days become weeks and those weeks have dragged into months, one can become a hopeless, ragged mess.

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I’ve always heard there isn’t a rule book to parenting that is handed over on a silver platter in the delivery room. {I’m overdue for two of those. If you’re working on writing one, please overnight me those copies ASAP.}

I lived for the nurturing stage. It was nothing to be woken up multiple times during the night for feeding, changing and loving that precious 7 pound 11 ounce Johnson’s Baby powdered darling.

It’s the sibling fighting that gets me. We have been stuck in this rut for some time now. I’m ready for someone to hitch us up and pull us out of it to be quite honest.

Not all days are bad. They love each other so much in the smallest, sweetest ways it’s Christmas card worthy. Like today at the beach..

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But the bad days seem to get magnified on the Times Square jumbotron of my already stressed out mind. And that’s just how the enemy wants it.

It leaves me wondering if it’s me.

Am I facing this same battle of wills over and over because there is something inside of me that isn’t quite refined yet? Is my stubbornness to be right and have the last word killing me softly? Is it that what drives me nuts about my children are the things I despise the most about myself?

Stumbling through endless posts on Pinterest about “sibling fights” praying to find answers and encouragent. I came across a gem for sure! {Please check out http://www.frugalfun4boys.com for some awesome ways to effectively navigate through parenthood! It definitely encouraged me today!}

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I was led to James chapter 4. Slide your finger down to verse 6 and….

Inhale……..


“But He gives MORE grace..”
{emphasis mine}

Exhale…….

I don’t know what you stand in need of today, my sweet friend. But for me, it’s grace…

My iPhone defined “grace” as the “free and unmerited favor of God.” I then went to define “favor” and found it is “an attitude of approval or liking; an act of kindness beyond what is due or usual.”

And my sweet friend, God freely gives you more grace for what is pulling and tugging at your heart. His free, unmerited favor and kindness goes far beyond what we could ever deserve. He gives us so much more than what we need, or think we need.

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Step away with me for a moment.

Exhale all that is draining you.. Let it all out. Lay it all at the precious feet of our Savior. 1 Peter 5:7 beckons us to cast ALL our cares on Him because He cares for us. All. Our. Cares. Sibling squabbles. In-law drama. Reoccurring heartburn. It’s all-inclusive.

Now inhale with me. Inhale His grace.. Then inhale even deeper from His never ending supply of grace. Because He promises more. And more. And even more. And when you think it’s drying up, His grace overflows into the deepest caverns of our needs.

Whatever it is that is weighing you down today, rest in the assurance that God’s grace IS enough. He is more than enough, my weary friend.

You’re going to make it. WE are going to make it. ❤ I want to leave you with this beautiful passage of scripture from Lamentations.

“Yet this I call to mind and therefore I have hope. Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. I say to myself, ‘The Lord is my portion, therefore I will wait for Him.'” Lamentations 3:21-24

Please share with someone if you’re encouraged! And please share below how God has shown Himself abundantly graceful in your life!

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❤ Brittany

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Perspective Changes Everything

Some days will either make or break you.

Some are filled with such uncontainable joy and laughter. The birth of a newborn, answered prayer for salvation of a loved one, and the love shared between a husband and wife on their wedding day. Beautiful, incredible, breathtaking moments.

Then there are those when it’s all you can do to crawl out from underneath the covers. When getting up is painful because of what the day holds. Routines become mundane and difficult leaving you breathless.

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James 4:14 compares our life to a morning fog that is here for a brief time then fades away. A vapor. Here for a moment and then it’s gone.

This week, we will be talking with three godly women who have walked through extremely difficult situations.

Life is short and we are not guaranteed tomorrow, so we can either abandon the outside world and remain in the fetal position in fear of what’s in front of us or make the best of the life we’ve been given.

Perspective changes everything.

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We can’t control the paths this life leads us down, but there is one thing we can control – how we let them affect us.

No matter what comes our way – sickness, financial turmoil, death of a loved one, abuse – we cannot allow things to distort the way we view God.

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No matter what you’re facing today, God is still faithful. He still loves you. He still has a plan for your life. He still cares for you. He holds your life in the palm of His hand and He knows every tear, fear and frustration. Just because you’re face to face with a ten foot giant does not mean God is any less God and any less present in your situation.

Please check back often this week! You don’t want to miss these ladies testimonies!

Please feel free to share your story with us! Share with someone who needs a little encouragement this week!

Love you guys!

Live Life Unscripted,
❤ Brittany

Perspective Change

On my walk/jog tonight, God reminded me of how sometimes we just need to see things from a different viewpoint.  Do you need a perspective change today?

 

 

Live Life Unscripted,

❤ Brittany

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Green Tree Frogs

My Darlings <3

My Darlings ❤

Tonight, it happened. Enjoying spending time with our 5-year-old making a tree frog out of a toilet paper tube, and I find myself being critical of her. She’s so proud of her solid green frog she’s painted, glued together and drawn a face on and I’m judging it. How…could…I…

This little Jesus-loving-girl who has stolen my heart long before she made her grand entrance into this world made something beautiful. She was so excited to see the finished product and smiling because I let her search Pinterest to choose the perfect tree frog to construct. And in my mind I was trying to make it better, as if I wasn’t convinced when she gave it her stamp of approval.

Kendyl is such a unique child. Her love for Jesus and people truly leave me speechless. It definitely magnifies the scripture in Proverbs 22:6 that says “Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.”

We pray for ambulances and firetrucks that are speeding past us with sirens blazing down the highway. If someone’s car is broken down on the side of the road, she pipes up from the backseat asking if we can help them. A lady at the flea market dropped her purse and contents went flying everywhere. My hands are full of our lunch trays and drinks but Kendyl ran to her rescue – without batting an eye. I cannot tell you how proud I am to have the honor of being this girl’s mom.

You see, I’m a perfectionist. I get it honest. I’m a grammar freak and almost OCD with some things, and it drives me batty. I’m constantly trying to find ways to improve things and I must be heard. Kendyl, my darling mini-me, has inherited the same genes. Help..us..Lord..

But one thing God spoke so heavy to my heart through such a simple homework assignment – you can’t live your issues through your children. How many times are we guilty of pushing our kids to the limit? Then what? They’re broken and feel like they don’t measure up to our high standards. And if they can’t measure up to Mom and Dad’s standards, will they ever feel they can measure up to God’s?

One thing life experiences have taught me, God is an individual God. He cares so deeply about every intricate detail of our life. He knows our likes and dislikes, successes and failures. And He uses our children to convict our hearts when we need a little work around the edges.

Can I be transparent with you today? I’m not perfect. I was really hard on myself today for the thought of trying to push my way on Kendyl. Trust me, God caught me before I did. I asked her if she wanted to add anything else to it and she smiled happily and said, “Nope!” Before I could open my mouth to interject my thoughts, it was as if God gently placed His hand over my lips and quieted me.

I don’t want to break my children of their God-given abilities and talents. Just because your child may do things a little differently than you doesn’t mean their wrong. I’m not talking major moral issues here. I’m simply saying don’t make an ant hill into Mt. Everest.

I pray God keeps me humble in this area. He’s teaching me that I can’t make her into a better kid version of me. She’s not me. God created her in His image just as He did me, but she’s a different person. I have to let her be herself and pray God shows me how to help mold her into the little God-girl He’s created her to be.

Have I said I’m proud to be her mom? I love this girl. God knew what He was doing when He blessed us with this little spunk muffin. I know you’re proud of your little rock star too. Let’s hold these little hearts gently. They get damaged so easily.

Live Life Unscripted,

❤ Brittany

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Us on Easter Sunday ❤

 

 

 

 

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