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Walk YOUR walk.

Maybe it’s a woman thing.  Heck, maybe it’s a ME thing.  But one thing I know is this – comparison stinks.

There will always be someone more successful.  Someone prettier.  Someone who seems more qualified.  There’s always going to be someone to compare ourselves to.  To compare our dreams to.

But the great thing is, God hasn’t called the pretty ones to do my job.  And He hasn’t called me to do theirs either.

He’s called me to walk MY walk with everything within me. 

Do you struggle with comparison?  { Quietly raises hand while hiding behind the glow of the computer screen.. }

You are you-niquely created with talents that desperately need to be on display to further the kingdom of God.

We can’t do this thing well when we’re so caught up in what he’s doing and what she’s accomplishing.  How many followers they have on Twitter and Instagram and how many shares and retweets their posts have.

God.  Made.  You.  YOU. 

You are special.  You are one of a kind.  You are the apple of His eye.  You are amazing.

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God hasn’t called you to walk somebody’s else’s walk. 

I’ve had several conversations with some blogging friends this past week about this exact thing.  It’s easy to feel like you’re not good enough and like you don’t have what it takes when you compare your walk to someone else’s.  God created us all so differently.  We’re all gifted in various ways, none quite the same.

Maybe you have a gifting with words.  Maybe you’re stellar creative.  Maybe it’s organizational skills. { I’m definitely not in this category. }  Teaching kids.  Nursing in ICU.  Working in the justice system.  School bus driver.

My hubby is a full time nurse and pastor.  He catches on quickly in the medical field and is amazing when you put a mic in his hand in front of a crowd.   On the other hand, I am a stay-at-home-mom, multitasking wife and blogger who wears a ka-jillion hats like a super ninja.  His giftings are different from mine.  Mine are different from his. We couldn’t possibly switch places and expect to have the same results on those around us.

God hasn’t called you to walk somebody else’s walk. 

God prepares us for the journey ahead of us.  He has placed within us what it takes to complete our mission.  We just have to trust Him.  Be faithful in the hallway before He opens that next door.  He knows where to find you.

Passionately walk the walk He has destined you for.  Wife, mom, daughter, son, teacher, lawyer, cashier, small business owner.. He will give you the desires of your heart and reward your faithfulness.   Besides, He’s the one who put those desires  there in the first place.

“For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them.” Psalm 139:13-16

Can I be real with you?  You will never write like her.  You will never sing like him.  Your house will never be spotless like theirs.  The quicker you accept this reality, the quicker you can release that deep breath you’ve been holding in for so long.  God isn’t asking for perfection, babe, He’s asking for a willing vessel.  Keep doing that thing you’ve been prewired to do.  That thing that brings you joy and others hope.

Be real.  Be bold.  Be.. YOU.  God loves you, beautiful.  He loves your humility and understands your desire to reach more, help more and love more.  But until more comes, be more where you are.  Be the best you that you can be!  And understand that it really is enough.  Be content with who you are, the gifts God has given you and where He has you right now.

What about you?  Have you struggled with comparision?  Overcome it?  I’d love to hear from you!  Please feel free to share your heart below or here on my Facebook page

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❤ Brittany

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Dare to Compare

I’ve really tried to be a regular blogger. Really, I have.

And then life happens. I miss a few days. Then a few days turns into a week and a half. Then come the questions. And comparisons.

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I’ve felt the pressure. The expectations. I’ve questioned myself. More than you know..

How often should I post? What topics should I write about? What’s the best time of day to post? Why can’t I be more like “her” or “this blog” or “that blog”?

I’m not sure about you, but I’ll shamefully admit that I’m great at comparing myself to others.

Comparing my cooking skills. My messy house. Photography. Marriage. Ability to accessorize. Confidence. Writing. Speaking. And most of all.. Mothering.

There will always be someone better. Someone with more experience.

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But there will never be another YOU.

Comparison is such a devious tool the enemy uses against us. Especially against women.

You’ve heard the conversations. Thought the thoughts.

“Have you seen her dress?” “Can you believe how many extracurricular activities her kids are in?” “Well they just shop all the time don’t they?”

Compare, compare, despair.

It’s a vicious cycle and must be broken. ASAP.

So here I am. Flinging the curtains open wide to expose some ugliness. Again. {Sometimes I wonder if I’m crazy being this transparent.}

I struggle with comparison. Like, baaaaad bad.

Am I a good enough wife? “She” works full time and helps provide for her family. I’m “just” a stay at home mom who can’t keep a clean house…

Do my kids think I’m a good enough mom? “She” has her kids memorizing scriptures, doing the coolest DIY projects and throws birthday parties to die for. I can barely remember to bathe them daily, I suck at most DIY projects and party planning. I’ll never measure up…

See the pattern here? It trips us up. It’s pretty self-destructive. And must be muzzled and discarded immediately before it’s roots dig down deep.

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Over the next week or so, I’m letting the walls down. I don’t live the “perfect life” with the “perfect family” with the white picket fence. We do life messy and loud. Almost always.

But one thing has hit me hard – God hasn’t called me to reach everyone, but He has called me to reach someone.

And I so desperately need Him to show me when to say yes wholeheartedly and when to politely say no. I’m so tired of giving the people I love the most my leftover time.

We can’t be 100% in 100 different areas. It’s just not possible. And the comparisons. must. stop.

So over the next week or so, I’m letting you into my heart. Your comments are welcome, but please be gentle. I’m still a work in progress. And I’m wiling to admit – I’m ready to trade perfection for progress.

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What about you? Do you struggle with comparison? Do you feel you measure up? Have you set unrealistic expectations for yourself?

Chime in below! I’d love to hear your thoughts!

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Live Life Unscripted,
❤ Brittany

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