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Spiritual Warfare. Either suit up for battle or you’re asking for trouble.

To The Barren Woman { Special Guest Post by Loretta Yopp! }

Does Mother’s Day find you in an uncomfortable place?  It is not by chance you found these words today.  You need a few moments to be encouraged, beautiful friend.   Push that darling little brew button on your coffee maker and pull up a seat at the table and let’s talk through this thing.   

Because you are worth it.  And because God knew you needed to read these words today.   

I am so excited to share a letter from a dear friend.  Loretta has shared before and this has come at the perfect time.  Mother’s Day.  Here is Loretta’s heart titled “The Barren Woman.” 

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To the Barren Woman,

I’m writing you this Mother’s Day to encourage you to keep moving forward and never give up on your dreams. I am not just another woman that doesn’t understand your pain. I’m a woman who has walked in your shoes. I’m a woman that has been through the fight of being barren and still battle it today. 

It is a struggle that can’t even be described in words. I’m one of the women that has faced the pain and suffered the loss of not being able to feel life growing inside of me. I’m one that has soaked my pillow many nights crying out to God asking Him “Why me, what did I do to deserve this pain?“. 

Quoting scripture after scripture to God as if God didn’t know what He promised in His Word. I was in every prayer line hoping and praying that someone would speak a word over my situation to encourage me that God heard me. Wanting nothing more to be pregnant, but always ending up empty handed. 

Yes, I have felt the pain and brokenness. I have had well meaning people say to me “how blessed” I was to not have to endure the pain of childbirth. Can I just say please don’t say that to a barren woman, because no matter how much you are trying to ease their pain it’s a kick in the face. 

I know the pain of walking around trying to be happy and rejoice for the rest of the pregnant women you meet. Please don’t think we are not glad for you, because we are it is just the human selfishness that surfaces no matter how hard we try to hide the truth that we face each day. You see this barrenness is a painful battle for us every day of our lives. 
  

I have been married to a wonderful man for 25 years and I am in my 40’s and I must tell you during the intimate moments it’s still emotionally painful at times. The feeling of failing my husband as a woman. The feelings within myself as not being a woman because something is wrong with me. 

It still is a slap in the face for me. I still have a longing for the experience of having a baby. I still cry and struggle with angry and rejection when I hear of or see someone pregnant. I encourage you that you are not alone. 

Don’t ever let someone tell you that you are having a pity party and that you should not feel this way… God made us woman to be fruitful and desire children. Your pain is real and Mother’s Day is a struggle and a grim reminder that you were chosen to be barren. 

But one thing that I have learned is that God knows what He is doing in my life and while I may feel loss and pain He is still God. I trust His direction for my life. 

In my case I changed my prayer for children… In September 2012, me and my husband adopted 3 children that God prepared for us. Katelyn, Victoria and Christian are blessings from God into our lives. I tell my children that while I was praying for children God was working on my behalf. 

  

Is the pain and desire still there to want to be pregnant? Yes, it is! But in all God’s goodness He gave me a blessing far greater than I could have ever imagined. 

So to the Barren Woman who is still Motherless on this Mother’s Day be encouraged that each day is a day closer to your destiny and purpose. God is not punishing you, but He is preparing you for greatness… 

Love in Christ my friend.

From Another Barren Woman

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Fighting With Faith

You think it could never happen to you. Until you find a lump. And then everything changes.  

  

This is my friend, Sarah. Her and her husband have a beautiful little girl and two foster children. They also pastor a growing church in Braydenton, FL.  

She’s young. A healthy eater. And cancer doesn’t even run in her family. Yet tests came back positive. For the “C” word.  

Just because you have Jesus doesn’t mean you’ve been handed a ticket to a worry free life. Christians still face larger than life situations. But here’s the kicker – we don’t face them alone.  

There have only been a few times in my life I can say that God has allowed me to “feel” someone’s burden and carry it with them. Feel it to where I physically hurt. Where the tears come in such heavy down pours. When my heart feels like it’s been linked to theirs and I find myself begging God to intervene.  
  
Now I am not rolling in the dough. We are not loaded. I wanted to help but wasn’t sure what I could do to make a drop in the ocean of funds it would take to make a difference.   

  

When praying for a way to help my friend, God reminded me of this pretty cool resource He gave me last year. Real Mom Moments. And immediately I knew that this book project was way bigger than me. That God foreknew what Sarah would be facing and that help was already on the way. And that it would be a double whammy – helping Sarah fight cancer and help moms who would come together to help Sarah.  

I pray that you’re able to help in some way. Whether you purchase a book for yourself to help fund Sarah’s treatment or whether you make it your mission to not only help her, but also find a few moms in your inner circle who could use some inspiration and purchase a hand full of books, every penny of the profit during the month of April will go to Sarah’s cancer treatment.  

Sarah and I both thank you in advance for your support! Here’s to #fightingwithfaith !! 

  

Please click the link at the top of the page titled “Real Mom Moments Book” to order your copies today! Or click here to go directly to the publisher’s website to order! 

Please check out Sarah’s blog www.fightingwithfaith.org to follow her journey! She would love to connect with you! 
  

Thank you for supporting this amazing young woman and her journey fighting with faith! 
Live Life Unscripted, 

❤ Brittany

It ain’t over ’til God says it’s over.

It’s hard calling it “Good Friday.”  Because for what it appeared, it looked to be anything but good.  The Messiah flogged, beaten, spit upon, mocked and his tattered flesh brutally nailed to a wooden splinter-ridden cross.  Sounds more like #worstdayever

Ohhh honey… but I believe Jesus knew deep down, despite the physical agony, despite the vast array of emotions – despite it all, He knew that it was indeed a good Friday.

It was on this particular day, even though it started off on the wrong foot, that He accomplished more than He had accomplished in His life thus far.  Yes He had healed people, yes He performed miracles and brought many into the family of God.  However on this day, the curtain was torn in the temple giving us access to the Father anytime, any place.  He did what no one else could do and became the sacrifice for the sins of the world so that ALL could accept the gift of eternal life.  He took a three day hiatus to show the devil who was boss and that death had no power over Him.  Now them’s shouting words right there!  #itaintover

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I don’t know what you’re facing today, but I know who holds you in the palm of His hands.  It may look like it’s anything but good right now, but just wait – Sunday is coming.  Life is coming.  Resurrection is coming!  It may appear that you’ve been forgotten, washed up and left mangled to pieces, but I know a man who has been there, done that and bought way more than a t-shirt to prove that it’s not the end.  It’s instead, part of the process.

We couldn’t have the triumph without the trial.  We couldn’t have the testimony without the test. 

We have hope because He didn’t walk out when it got uncomfortable.  He didn’t throw in the towel and call for backup.  He endured what was before Him and proved we truly are overcomers through Christ Jesus. (Romans 8:37)

It may hurt right now and not make any sense, but there is always a purpose.  Always remember, what the enemy means for your harm, God can turn around for your good.  (Romans 8:28)

Happy Good Friday, y’all!  ❤  Just wanted to share my heart in a brief video.  I pray it encourages you like it did me!

(These videos always capture a still shot of the worst facial expressions! haha!)

Live Life Unscripted,

❤ Brittany

In the Potter’s Hands 

Sometimes we find ourselves being thrusted into uncomfortable, unfamiliar places. Life gets unbearable, painful and just plain sucky at times.

It’s easy in our human nature to tense up, clam up and close up.

But instead – God wants us to grow. He wants us to prosper and gain wisdom and knowledge. And sometimes we have to walk through the fire of uncertainty and unfamiliarity in order to truly understand He will never leave us of forsake us.

It’s in the fire that we are tested and refined.

This morning I was reading in 2 Corinthians and came upon this passage of scripture.   I’m so blown away by Paul’s humility.   He is one of my favorite authors in scripture.   His is so openly transparent in his suffering.


“..for we were so utterly burdened beyond our strength that we despaired of life itself.  Indeed, we felt that we had received the sentence of death.  But it was to make us rely not on ourselves but on God who raises the dead.”  2 Corinthians 1:8-9

Sometimes life just plain sucks.  The doctors give a grim report, job loss paralyzes our finances, friends betray us and families get ripped apart at the seams.  One thing after another after another.   Things spiral out of our control leaving us feeling rattled and shattered.

We are not left alone to pick up the broken pieces.   

 

Paul even admits that life became unbearable.  Pain hurts!  But he goes on to say in verse 10 that they have set their hope in Christ that he will deliver them again. God remains faithful to His track record of deliverance.

Sometimes we have to endure the trials to become more pliable in His hands.  

I’ve heard so many times the reference of God being the patient potter.   We are the lumpy pile of clay in his hands and He patiently molds us and shapes us into who we are called to be.  When we become jagged and brittle, we go back on the Potter’s wheel and are reshaped and refined.  We are most pliable in the hands of the Potter.

I recorded this last night after dropping off our kids at VBS and feel so strongly that someone needs to hear these words.  Please feel free to share with someone needing encouragement.


Don’t give up, my sweet friend.  And don’t try to jump off the Potter’s wheel.   You are safe in the palm of His hands.

 

Live Life Unscripted,

❤ Brittany

Step Into the Light

Light and darkness cannot coexist. Either there is total darkness without the presence of light, or there is light overtaking the darkness. 

Think about it. Your bedroom is pitch black because all lights are off. When you turn on a lamp or flip a light switch – instant light! The darkness can no longer remain when there is light. 

  
The Light (Jesus Christ) will always illuminate the darkness. Darkness can’t stand in the presence of the light. Demons flee and Satan trembles at the presence of God Almighty! All of hell thought they had this thing in the bag when Jesus was crucified and hung lifeless on the cross, BUT GOD had other plans!! 

For years I found myself wallowing in sin.  I had convinced myself that because no one knew about these dark places, I was fine and there would be no consequences.  The enemy is a pretty strategic guy, isn’t he?  

This double life we lead with perfectly placed masks leads to destruction.  It may not happen immediately but ultimately leads us into places we never intended on placing our feet.   

Our only hope is to allow the Light to illuminate the darkness in our lives.   

  

Matthew 6:24 says, “No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.” 

Take out the word “money” and exchange it for whatever has gripped you and held you in bondage.

 

“You cannot serve both God and porn.”  
“You cannot serve both God and alcohol.
“You cannot not serve both God and fear.” 
“You cannot serve both God and darkness.

“You cannot serve both God and ________.”


God sent His only son, Jesus, so we could be rescued from our sin and walk in the light.  We are not left without hope!  

God foreknew our failure yet He preplanned a promise.  
And that promise is woven so beautifully throughout scripture.   The reality of redemption is so real and tangible, we must just grab hold of it!  

Fling open those spiritual shades in your life and let the Light come in to overcome the darkness. If you wallow in the darkness, it will overtake you. But if you allow the Light of Christ and the Word of God to illuminate those dark places, you will find unfathomable, unshakable hope! 

I encourage you today to check out “Forever” by Kari Jobe.  We will overcome!! 

Please connect with me on Facebook for more encouragement.  I can also be found on Instagram & Twitter at @lifeunscripted5 
Live Life Unscripted, 

❤ Brittany 

Absent Minded Foggy Mommy Brain

I know that title totally makes you want to read more. Haha 

So here I am aimlessly scrolling through my phone and happen to check my blog and realize – WOAH. I have been updating my Facebook but left you guys hanging here. For quite a while.  I’m so sorry! 

First off – if you want to stay connected, Facebook is definitely the best way to keep up with me. When inspiration hits, I frequently grab my phone and head to my Life Unscripted Facebook Page. { Click here to like my page and let’s stay connected! }

{ below: our church’s 1st Annual Easter Egg Drop } 

   

 


Secondly – We have been busier than ever! I’ve begun to realize that posting daily isn’t realistic during this stage of my life. I have a lot to say and God speaks such precious whispers, but time simply doesn’t always present itself to log in and post every day.  { Honestly, just remembering to bathe the kids and brush teeth is a high five worthy moment right now. }  

That being said, I pray you stick with me and keep up with me on Facebook for encouragement and videos. I will post as much as I can, but being a full time pastor’s wife, mom, homemaker, and wearer of many colorful hats – posting may not be totally scheduled and regular. { The realization that I haven’t posted in over a month stings..

  

Thirdly – We were in a crazy car crash a few weeks ago that was inches from leaving our 6-year-old an orphan.  At this time I can’t discuss any details other than we’re alive solely by the grace of God.   

  

Our new Newsong CD “Faithful” was the last thing removed from our van and I think it’s pretty epic and an awesome reminder that we serve a faithful God, even when things around us seem to be total chaos.   { A brief video post can be found on my Facebook page entitled, But God.. }

And last, but definitely not least – Some exciting news I couldn’t wait to share!! We’re expecting baby # 3!  Baby Jones will make his or her grand appearance sometime mid-October! 

   

 

So needless to say, it’s been crazy busy! But I’m hoping to continue videos and posts as much as I can.

{just got back from spending Easter break wth family in VA} 

   

       

  

{In the above pic my BFF and I were laughing so hard I thought I had pee’d myself but realized my mom’s car had heated seats!!  Her self timer on her phone just so happened to catch us cracking up. You’re welcome.  Lol} 

Love you guys SO much and love hearing from you!  Would love to know what God is up to in your life right now!   

Keep up with me on Facebook and Instagram.  @lifeunscripted5 

 Live Life Unscripted, 

 ❤ Brittany

Fight for your VOICE! <3

 

We’re kicking it old school today.  You remember The Little Mermaid, right?  All those who were raised in the 90s or raised kids in the 90s said… YEAH!  🙂

Ariel had a problem.  She wasn’t satisfied.  She always wanted more.  Her gidgets and gadgets satisfied only for a short while, so she decided to make a bargain of a lifetime with an evil sea witch.image

She traded her voice for temporary satisfaction.  IF she could score true love’s kiss by sunset on the 3rd day, she was set.  Legs forever and no more fishy fins.  If not, then she was a fish out of water.  To be Ursula’s captive.  F.o.r.e.v.e.r.

Have you found yourself in a fishy situation?  Many times we are faced with a choice.  God’s way vs. our way.  What’s totally awesome is when these two intersect and become one.  When it’s detrimental is when we see God’s way as a hindrance to our way.

Don’t trade your voice for anything, sweet friend.  It’s not worth it.   You won’t be happy until you’re walking the path God has divinely prepared for you and doing the things He has created you to do. 

I unfortunately traded my “voice” back in high school for temporary pleasure.  I did what felt good and cared less about eh consequences.  Until I ruined my reputation.  And was called a hypocrite.  All because I wanted more and I didn’t know that more could really hurt me.

I pray you’re encouraged as you watch this brief video.  My heart has been burning with this message for days now. { If you’re reading this in an email, please click here. }

Do you remember a time when you felt your voice was at stake? 

Struggle to revive your influence? 

Lay it down at the feet of Jesus.  Practice surrender daily.  This walk with The Lord is a marathon, not a sprint.  And when you fall flat on your face, ask forgiveness and get back up.  Fight for your voice.  Fight to maintain your influence on others around you.  They’re watching you.  ❤

Live Life Unscripted,

❤ Brittany

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Dare to Compare

I’ve really tried to be a regular blogger. Really, I have.

And then life happens. I miss a few days. Then a few days turns into a week and a half. Then come the questions. And comparisons.

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I’ve felt the pressure. The expectations. I’ve questioned myself. More than you know..

How often should I post? What topics should I write about? What’s the best time of day to post? Why can’t I be more like “her” or “this blog” or “that blog”?

I’m not sure about you, but I’ll shamefully admit that I’m great at comparing myself to others.

Comparing my cooking skills. My messy house. Photography. Marriage. Ability to accessorize. Confidence. Writing. Speaking. And most of all.. Mothering.

There will always be someone better. Someone with more experience.

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But there will never be another YOU.

Comparison is such a devious tool the enemy uses against us. Especially against women.

You’ve heard the conversations. Thought the thoughts.

“Have you seen her dress?” “Can you believe how many extracurricular activities her kids are in?” “Well they just shop all the time don’t they?”

Compare, compare, despair.

It’s a vicious cycle and must be broken. ASAP.

So here I am. Flinging the curtains open wide to expose some ugliness. Again. {Sometimes I wonder if I’m crazy being this transparent.}

I struggle with comparison. Like, baaaaad bad.

Am I a good enough wife? “She” works full time and helps provide for her family. I’m “just” a stay at home mom who can’t keep a clean house…

Do my kids think I’m a good enough mom? “She” has her kids memorizing scriptures, doing the coolest DIY projects and throws birthday parties to die for. I can barely remember to bathe them daily, I suck at most DIY projects and party planning. I’ll never measure up…

See the pattern here? It trips us up. It’s pretty self-destructive. And must be muzzled and discarded immediately before it’s roots dig down deep.

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Over the next week or so, I’m letting the walls down. I don’t live the “perfect life” with the “perfect family” with the white picket fence. We do life messy and loud. Almost always.

But one thing has hit me hard – God hasn’t called me to reach everyone, but He has called me to reach someone.

And I so desperately need Him to show me when to say yes wholeheartedly and when to politely say no. I’m so tired of giving the people I love the most my leftover time.

We can’t be 100% in 100 different areas. It’s just not possible. And the comparisons. must. stop.

So over the next week or so, I’m letting you into my heart. Your comments are welcome, but please be gentle. I’m still a work in progress. And I’m wiling to admit – I’m ready to trade perfection for progress.

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What about you? Do you struggle with comparison? Do you feel you measure up? Have you set unrealistic expectations for yourself?

Chime in below! I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Come back this week to read more! And please consider subscribing {free} if you find yourself frequenting my blog. Share if you’re encouraged today!

Live Life Unscripted,
❤ Brittany

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Fill Up, Babe.

It is so amazing to me how God unveils life’s greatest wisdom through gentle whispers, if we will only make time to listen.

We may need to clean a little wax from our stubborn ears in order to clearly hear His voice. Maybe wipe the dust from the bible on the night stand that has longed to be picked up for so long.

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We must make time for Him.

We must spend time soaking in His Word.

Even if it means we have to wake up half an hour before the kids pop their heads up. (Can I get a weary mama amen?)

We must spend time in prayer.

And then.. Then and only then..

We will hear from Him. Perhaps while drinking a pumpkin spice cappuccino.

I pray you are encouraged as you watch this brief video. Love you guys!

Fill up, babe. Your life depends on it. Others lives depend on it. Refuse to walk around empty anymore. Allow yourself to be filled by the one who can change. your. life. forever.

Ask the Samaritan woman in John 4:13-15. That’s a good “homework assignment” to leave you with tonight. Hey, I know it’s the weekend. 😉

Live Life Unscripted,
❤ Brittany

Please share below how God has spoken through mind-blowing wisdom through the little things! I’d love to hear from you!

More Than Enough.

Another day of endless sibling squabbles.

More than enough.

Give me that! I had it first! That’s mine! Stop it! He’s pushing me! She did it!” The oh so familiar repetitive routine will wear down even the strongest ones.

Some days are so completely exhausting. *insert long dramatic sigh here* And when those days become weeks and those weeks have dragged into months, one can become a hopeless, ragged mess.

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I’ve always heard there isn’t a rule book to parenting that is handed over on a silver platter in the delivery room. {I’m overdue for two of those. If you’re working on writing one, please overnight me those copies ASAP.}

I lived for the nurturing stage. It was nothing to be woken up multiple times during the night for feeding, changing and loving that precious 7 pound 11 ounce Johnson’s Baby powdered darling.

It’s the sibling fighting that gets me. We have been stuck in this rut for some time now. I’m ready for someone to hitch us up and pull us out of it to be quite honest.

Not all days are bad. They love each other so much in the smallest, sweetest ways it’s Christmas card worthy. Like today at the beach..

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But the bad days seem to get magnified on the Times Square jumbotron of my already stressed out mind. And that’s just how the enemy wants it.

It leaves me wondering if it’s me.

Am I facing this same battle of wills over and over because there is something inside of me that isn’t quite refined yet? Is my stubbornness to be right and have the last word killing me softly? Is it that what drives me nuts about my children are the things I despise the most about myself?

Stumbling through endless posts on Pinterest about “sibling fights” praying to find answers and encouragent. I came across a gem for sure! {Please check out http://www.frugalfun4boys.com for some awesome ways to effectively navigate through parenthood! It definitely encouraged me today!}

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I was led to James chapter 4. Slide your finger down to verse 6 and….

Inhale……..


“But He gives MORE grace..”
{emphasis mine}

Exhale…….

I don’t know what you stand in need of today, my sweet friend. But for me, it’s grace…

My iPhone defined “grace” as the “free and unmerited favor of God.” I then went to define “favor” and found it is “an attitude of approval or liking; an act of kindness beyond what is due or usual.”

And my sweet friend, God freely gives you more grace for what is pulling and tugging at your heart. His free, unmerited favor and kindness goes far beyond what we could ever deserve. He gives us so much more than what we need, or think we need.

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Step away with me for a moment.

Exhale all that is draining you.. Let it all out. Lay it all at the precious feet of our Savior. 1 Peter 5:7 beckons us to cast ALL our cares on Him because He cares for us. All. Our. Cares. Sibling squabbles. In-law drama. Reoccurring heartburn. It’s all-inclusive.

Now inhale with me. Inhale His grace.. Then inhale even deeper from His never ending supply of grace. Because He promises more. And more. And even more. And when you think it’s drying up, His grace overflows into the deepest caverns of our needs.

Whatever it is that is weighing you down today, rest in the assurance that God’s grace IS enough. He is more than enough, my weary friend.

You’re going to make it. WE are going to make it. ❤ I want to leave you with this beautiful passage of scripture from Lamentations.

“Yet this I call to mind and therefore I have hope. Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. I say to myself, ‘The Lord is my portion, therefore I will wait for Him.'” Lamentations 3:21-24

Please share with someone if you’re encouraged! And please share below how God has shown Himself abundantly graceful in your life!

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Live Life Unscripted,
❤ Brittany

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