I’m not a huge movie buff. But I have to admit, my all time favorite chick flick romances are tied between Sweet Home Alabama, The Vow, P.S. I Love You, A Walk to Remember and The Notebook. I dare you to watch those last three without hugging a box of tissues!
There are so many writers who write some really mushy love stories, aren’t there? They are so creative with their words and story lines! They definitely pull and tug at all of our girly emotions. The guy passionately pursues the girl, he blind folds her and takes her to a rooftop to a table set for two with rose petals scattered across the floor with candles flickering and violinists serenading, and they share their first kiss as her leg pops up and shooting stars are dancing across the night’s sky. And they live happily ever after. (I just made that up. Email me if you’re ready to fund that to get to get it to the big screen.)
Let’s be real. How many times does that really happen? We get so caught up in The Bachelor and reality shows with all the excitement of what’s coming next and who’s kissing who. We go to the movies or dig into a romance novel and suddenly compare the man in our life to this fictitious tall dark and handsome hunk of man who is nothing short of perfection. It’s so unfair to expect our men to live up to these unrealistic expectations. They’re human just like we are. They are flawed and have imperfections, but that’s what makes them who they are.
How would you like to walk in on your boyfriend or husband watching Victoria Secret models strut their stuff and oooo and ahhhh about it with all his guy friends? “Look at her! OMG, she’s perfect! Those curves are just.. If only I had a woman like her. Those lips…” You would be so offended and feel like you didn’t meet his standards.
Isn’t that essentially what we’re doing to our men? We’ve allowed Hollywood and New York Times best sellers to dictate what love is. And my friend, it’s a fantasy world that is never going to happen!
It says in Proverbs 12:11 “…he who chases fantasies lacks judgement.” When this fantasy Prince Charming fails to shine through, we’re left feeling dissatisfied and start picking our man apart. The enemy is one crafty dude, isn’t he? He sneaks in this giant home wrecker disguised in “love” and warm fuzzy feelings.
Aside from Jesus, there is no perfect man. We need to accept that if God brought us together, our man is perfect for us. We both have imperfections, but he is our soul mate and doesn’t need to be compared to another man. Always remember, a man can never do for you what God can and it’s unfair to expect him to fulfill you in that way.
And beautiful, if you haven’t found the man of your dreams, can I encourage you for a moment? Seek God with all of your heart. Let God complete you. God is the only one who knows you inside and out and can truly give you all the desires of your heart. Serve Him wholeheartedly and ask Him to prepare you for your future husband. It’s never too early to start praying for the man God has for you, even when you haven’t even met him yet. ❤
I challenge you this week – turn off Lifetime and put away the romance novels. Let's allow God to show us what love really is. I'm praying for you!
I'm going to leave you with His example in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (The MSG).
"Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have. Love doesn’t strut, doesn't have a swelled head, doesn't force itself on others, isn't always “me first,” doesn't fly off the handle, doesn't keep score of the sins of others, doesn't revel when others grovel, takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, puts up with anything, trusts God always, always looks for the best, never looks back, but keeps going to the end. Love never dies.."
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