Mentoring 101


{The above picture is my mentor, Penny Bartee, and I taken a while back.}

“Do you know that everybody needs a man {or woman} of God in their life? You need someone who won’t just tell you what you want to hear, but someone who will tell you what you need to hear. Someone who won’t just make you feel good. Someone who will also challenge you.” -Jentezen Franklin

I added the {or woman} in the above quote because as a female, it’s much safer to have a woman of God as a mentor rather than a man.

It’s so easy to gravitate towards those who tell us what we WANT to hear, but that isn’t healthy for our growth in Christ. We need tough love. We need to be surrounded with people who give godly wisdom and don’t tickle our ears and make us feel warm and fuzzy with false hope. We need to be set straight and told we’re wrong sometimes.

So many are afraid to tell it like it is in fear of hurting the other person’s feelings. It’s great to be mindful of their feelings, but we need to be honest with each other instead of sugar coating the truth. Sometimes life hands us lemons, but we can’t curl up under the bed in the fetal position and hide away from our troubles. {If someone tells you this, I’m sorry, beautiful, but they’re wrong.}

Proverbs 27:17 says “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”

Pray about seeking a godly woman as your mentor. I have an incredible woman who has been my best friend and mentor for about 7 years now. {I love you, Penny!} She has always told me like it is and has stretched me way out of my comfort zone. God has used her in a mighty way in my life and I’m so grateful she has taken me under her wing and helped mold me into the woman I am today.

She’s been there to laugh with me and pray with Gary and I. She’s listened to me when life has spun out of control and the walls felt like they were closing in. She’s prayed with me in trying times and challenged me and helped build my faith. And when I’ve been wrong in my thinking – she’s set me straight. And I’m grateful for her for loving me enough to be that honest with me.

You need a godly voice speaking into your life. It’s so important for you in your walk with God. And so many people in the bible tool this concept to heart. Elisha and Elijah. Naomi and Ruth. He sends people your way to help you along this journey. Sometimes they’re older and they’ve walked where you’ve walked and sometimes they’re younger and fired up for Jesus and you need your dying embers ignited again. Regardless, you need wise counsel in your life.

But a word of caution – be very careful of those who use flattering words to build you up. They could be wolves in sheep’s clothing sent by the enemy to destroy you. Prayerfully seek wise counsel. Don’t just run to the girl sitting next to you in gym class.

“Oil and perfume make the heart glad, So a man’s counsel is sweet to his friend.” – Proverbs 27:9

Live Life Unscripted,
❤ Brittany

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